So, these thoughts have been brewing in my head for some time, and they apply to many people but none more than myself. What I’m going to say may be stating the obvious, but it needs to be said anyway. If life isn’t going the way you want it to then change it. You can’t keep complaining about how “life sucks” when you’ve done nothing to make it better.
If you hate your job — work to make it better or find a new one. Not easy to get a new one? Change is never easy. Anyone that knows me knows that I haven’t been the happiest with my job lately and I’m only really happy when working with a couple of clients. I can’t use the hope of working with those clients as my reason for keeping my job when the other projects may not make me happy. However, for me to get a new job, I need to lay the groundwork to leave. I’m not going to go into the details, I’ll just say it’ll probably take me the majority of the year to get to where I can readily look for a new job. I just need to keep my eye on the end goal.
And if you don’t have your “dream job”. Then work for it. It may take years to find it and that might mean working for places you consider inferior or below you. However, if you really need the money, you’ll take the job. Dream jobs don’t just fall into your lap. This might just mean you’ll have to bag groceries or be a fry cook for a period of time. It’s not glamorous, but it’ll help put food on the table. Which is more important - survival or pride?
Maybe you’re just tired of your career path and want to try something new. If it’s feasible, then go for it. But don’t waste $100k in student loans just to realize you didn’t really want to go down that new path. Research before you follow down a path like this.
If you hate your relationships — then do something to change them. Work on your marriage and work on finding people that make you better for knowing them, not worse. Surrounding yourself with toxic people only makes you toxic. I know this one isn’t always easy, but you’ll be better off when you reevaluate your relationships and work on strengthening the ones you value.
If you’re just generally unhappy with life, then find something that will make you happy. Find a new hobby. There is something out there for everyone. If you say there’s “nothing” that will make you happy, then you’re not looking or really don’t want to find something. That may sound harsh, but I feel it to be true. I can easily say that there’s nothing that could make me happy. However, I can think of several things. The only problem is, I have to work for them!
You will have to work for anything that’s worth having.
I often think when it comes to finding something new or different that I don’t have time for it. I’ve fallen into that rut time and time again. However, I’ve found if I change it to “it’s not a priority”, it helps me think things differently. I started off this year walking/running 3-4 times a week but I stopped when the weather got colder and now it’s been near impossible for me to get started again. And, of course, it always seems that work or something else gets in the way. I easily say I don’t have time for it, but in reality it hasn’t been a priority. I’ve put my priority as work, unfortunately. I’m trying to get better with that again, but it’ll take time. I’ll have to make the things important to me a priority.
Also, when it comes to the above things, it also helps to say “it’s not a priority”. Finding a new job isn’t a priority. Fixing my relationship isn’t a priority. Working out isn’t a priority, etc.
These are things I’ve had trouble working through at one time or another. I’m not trying to sound preachy or anything like that. So, if it comes off that way, I apologize. However, that is the only thing I apologize for. If this offended you, then it was likely something you needed to read. And I wrote this with myself in mind just as much as anyone else, if not more. I need to follow this advice myself and I am doing what I can to do so.
I hope this has actually helped someone that needed to read it. Just remember, when it comes to changing the things you don’t like about your life, it all starts with you.